About
For most of my life, I believed I was consciously building it.
Looking back, I can see I wasn't.
Like many people, I inherited ideas about success, achievement, identity, and who I was supposed to become long before I ever questioned them. Beneath those expectations, there were wounds I didn't yet understand.
When I was three years old, I experienced childhood sexual abuse.
I didn't realize it at the time, but that single experience quietly shaped the next three decades of my life.
I lived in survival mode without even knowing it.
I chased certainty where there wasn't any, I searched for approval, I abandoned parts of myself to become who I thought I needed to be, anxiety became normal, depression became familiar, and anger felt constant.
My biological father wasn't part of my life, the man who later tried to adopt me became abusive, then as a teenager, moving across the country pulled me away from everything that felt stable just as the pain I had buried was beginning to surface.
None of it made sense to me then.
I only knew that no matter how hard I worked or how many different directions I pursued, something always felt off.
So I kept searching…
Music, acting, corporate careers, relationships, adventure. Anything that might finally make life feel like it “fit.”
Instead, I kept finding myself repeating the same patterns.
As time went on, the more those unconscious patterns began affecting every part of my life.
As a kid, I chased adrenaline through dangerous sports without understanding that I wasn't simply seeking excitement…
I was trying to outrun feelings I didn't know how to carry.
As I got older, relationships ended because I disappeared emotionally before I even realized I was doing it.
I accepted jobs that looked successful from the outside but left me feeling disconnected from myself.
The ruptures kept coming.
Layoffs, evictions, living out of my car, multiple surgeries from injuries I'd accumulated as a child, career changes, relationships that fell apart despite genuinely caring about the people in them…
Every chapter seemed to end the same way.
I wasn't intentionally building my life, I was reacting to stories I'd never consciously chosen.
At the time, I thought something was wrong with me.
I didn't yet realize that survival mode was writing the story.
The biggest turning point in my life didn't come from a book, a seminar, or a breakthrough conversation…
It came from my dog.
Archie was a rescue from Puerto Rico.
When he developed an aggressive brain tumor at just three years old, everything else in my life suddenly became quiet.
My own pain stopped mattering.
For weeks, I cared for him every day as his health slowly declined.
I spoon-fed him, helped him walk, laid beside him on the kitchen floor, watched him rest in the sunlight he loved so much.
As heartbreaking as those weeks were, they also became one of the greatest gifts I've ever received.
Archie pulled me completely into the present.
In caring for him, I began seeing my own life with a clarity I'd never experienced before.
The breakup I had just gone through, the decades of anxiety, the depression, the repeated patterns, the feeling that I had spent years building a life that didn't actually belong to me.
One evening, while sitting beside him, I made him a promise:
I whispered into his ear that I would spend the rest of my life living the way he did, fully present, fully alive, unapologetically myself…
And if I could, I'd help other people do the same.
That promise became the beginning of everything that followed.
Since then, my life has become an ongoing experiment in curiosity, intentionality, and conscious choice.
Not because I have everything figured out….
Because I don't.
But I've learned that staying curious changes everything.
Today, I host The Everything Experiment® Podcast, where I explore ideas, perspectives, and conversations that challenge inherited stories and invite people to think differently about the lives they’re creating.
Sometimes those conversations happen on the podcast, sometimes they happen on stage, sometimes they happen quietly through writing.
Across all of it, the mission remains the same…
I don't believe it's my place to tell people what an authentic life looks like…
But I do believe each of us has the ability to consciously author a life that feels authentic to who we really are.
And if my story helps someone pause long enough to ask their own questions…
Who am I beneath the expectations?
What stories am I still living inside?
What would it look like to choose differently?
… then every chapter that brought me here has been more than worth it.
